Monday, February 1, 2010

Attachment and Bonding


Attachment is a real issue. It is as real for infants and toddlers as it is for older kids. There is so much information out there there is no reason to not arm yourself with information, tactics, strategies and ideas so that you have a warehouse of information when you get your child home at long last. You will know what to look for and what to do to help him or her and yourself. This is by no means an exhaustive list, nor even a really very good one. But, it is what I have found to be helpful for us and what I have posted on this blog. Happy bonding!

Here I will post some of my posts and links on attachment, as a matter of consolidation for those of you searching:
I am not going to advocate for any certain style of attachment therapy. I don't know anything about it. I am just listing resources that have been helpful for us. :)

From a general list on adoption resources:

Attachment Disorder Nancy Thomas Parenting Reactive Attachment Disorder
"Attaching in Adoption" by Deborah Gray
This is an important topic. Read all you can while you are waiting for your child referral and court date.

From a post on book recommendations:
Adoption and race for parents:
Toddler adoption the weaver's craft by Hopkins-Best
Taming the tiger while it is still a kitten by Nancy Thomas (the book is not particularly focused on Christians but I hear she is a Christian) I found this book to be a complimentary (to the Deborah Gray's book) list of attachment signs to look for and practical ideas for attachment. It is more of a booklet. I do not know anything about her particular theory's as this book does not address that.
Attaching in adoption by Deborah Grey
I'm chocolate you're vanilla by Marguerite A. Wright
Before You were mine (on making a Christian life book)*
Twenty Things Adopted Kids wish their parents knew by Sherrie Eldridge

1 comment:

Ce said...

I would like to recommend a number of books that might better address attachment strategies than Nancy Thomas' When Love is Not Enough. While I believe there is a place for Thomas' techniques, I do not believe they lead to attachment and I do believe that they lead to furthering attachment breaches.

Beyond Consequences by Heather Forbes

Parenting from the Inside Out by Dan Seigel.

Attaching in Adoption by Deborah Gray

Taming the Wild Child by Aaron Lederer

The Connected Child by Purvis

Attachment Focused Parenting by Dan Hughes

Parenting the Hurt Child by Keck

Adopting the Hurt Child by Keck

Because love matters,
Ce Eshelman, LMFT